One of the most common mistakes which is taught in the world of Personal Development is the one where people are just taught that they ‘have to want it badly enough’. If you don’t want it badly enough then you won’t get it! That’s the way we are taught. The problem is that we do not all ‘want’ in the same way. Successful people ‘want’ differently to unsuccessful people.
Now the people teaching that method, well that system will work for them because they are still in touch with their natural success mindset. They can still use the word want and be in the correct state of mind to accept that they are going to create it.
Whereas, unfortunately what works for people who are in touch with their natural success mindset and what works for people who have lost touch with this mindset, are different things. Or rather, if you have lost touch with your success mindset then wanting will not work for you!
What I’m going to go through next is how a successful person wants and how an unsuccessful person wants. You should be able to recognise what parts (if any) you are doing right and all you are doing wrong.
This is the state of mind a successful person is in when they want it badly enough.
“I want this so much I am going to do EVERYTHING it takes to make it happen, I mean everything… I am going to do this, it is already mine, I own it… I am just waiting for it to become real to everyone else now… like it is already real for me.”
Re-read this again a few times until you can feel how that would feel to be in that whole state of knowing it will happen. This is a state of mind that is successful, this is what people mean when they say this is a wealth or wealthy mindset.
You had that wealth mindset once too, as it is our natural mindset. If you want to get that mind state back then you have to have it in your mind first… You have had it there before so if you go and feel it with this, you will begin to recognise it again.
Now let’s consider how an unsuccessful person approaches the ‘You’ve got to want it badly enough’ scenario.
“I want this so much, I really, really want this to happen (I doubt it will…but I WANT it to! I am going to do EVERYTHING… (well virtually everything) I have to, to make it happen. I am going to do this as I really want it badly enough. (But… if only I could have a sign that it would just start to happen, then I really would give it everything…then I’ll give it my all! The trouble is I want it so much but I just don’t think it’ll happen. But no I really, really want this!) Yes I’m going to do this I want it!”
What a mess! Re-read that a few times! The bits in brackets are the bugs and viruses in the mind of an unsuccessful person – they are the voices in their heads. So re-read it and see yourself in it. Don’t be afraid to see how you failed before, it is in becoming aware of what we do wrong that we can begin to prevent it happening again. You only proper fail if you do not learn from failure. As Edison said, “Today we have learnt another way not to make a light bulb.”
Don’t let that voice in your mind tell you not to re-read and learn. If you have ever read the line about wanting something badly enough and then used it yourself to try and obtain a goal… then failed of course! Then I suggest you re-read the unsuccessful person’s method again and see if you recognise any of your own crooked thinking in there.
This is activating the power of awareness and awareness is the first step back on the road to getting you back to your natural success mindset. Time spent re-reading those two very different mind states will be time well invested.
How Unsuccessful People Think Poorly Not Wealthily
There is a real difference in the way the successful person wanted it and how the unsuccessful person wanted it too.
The successful person wanted it with the certainty that they would get it. This is the same state of mind a baby has when they learn to walk. The successful person had no room for doubt in their wanting it badly enough, so they did want it badly enough. They wanted it without doubt that they could get it because they had the certainty that they would get it.
And lastly, the certainty that they would get it meant that they were detached from actually needing to get it. They had let it go with complete certainty that they would get it. This is the ultimate power of detachment. Cultivating all of this in a sentence and into a mind state is something we as humans do naturally in our perfect enlightened states as a child.
However, once we start to live in what we consider the real world, we lose touch with this mind state. We try to create success and it is elusive to us simply because we are trying to create success from the wrong starting position.
People often ask me what is the secret to success and it is simply getting into the perfect position to start. We had that naturally when we were born, however, once we have been programmed by false assumptions, stupid doctrine and general bulsh*t about the way things work, then we are lost and out of position.
Finding that position again is the ONLY way to create success once you have lost touch with your natural success mindset. Which of course is why I wrote Creating A Bug Free Mind, which gets you back to that position.
Now let’s go back and look at the unsuccessful persons mind and compare their mind state.
The unsuccessful person wanted it with the knowledge that they doubted they would get it (their dream died right here… but let’s continue as their ego wanted to ensure that this dream was dead!)
This doubtful mindset is not the same state of mind a baby has when they learn to walk is it? The unsuccessful person was full of doubt in their wanting it badly enough, so they did want it badly, they wanted it very, very badly and ineffectively – they were using the unsuccessful persons state of want… This is the very opposite of a wealth mindset.
They wanted it but doubted that they could get it because they had no certainty at all that they would get it – Can you see how they/you killed off your own dreams before you started, thanks to the bugs in your mind?.
And lastly, the lack of any certainty that they would get it meant that they were attached to ‘needing to get it’. They were not in a position to let it go as they doubted they would get it, so they needed and wanted and created their own failure with just their mind. An unsuccessful person has just as much power to un-create as a successful person has to create. We all have the same power, we just use it differently.
Successful people know it will happen, therefore they are not attached to it happening as it is merely the same as the sun coming up again… It’s going to happen, life cannot not have this happen. It is a certainty to them, so they can relax and get on with it safe in the knowledge that it’s going to happen.
This is a wonderful state of mind to be in, you had it once as a child and you can regain it again. However, as each day passes it gets further and further out of reach. Your success becomes harder as you get older and this is the Paradox of learning, but that’s for another time.
Today, you may want to decide that you would like to get back to where you once were, get back to the position of having your natural success mindset again.
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“Successful people have the ability to go from set back to set back with no loss of enthusiasm.”